We as humans make efforts for ourselves and the people around us. There’s this hope in our hearts to make everything perfect in our lives in order to get rid of any grief which ruins our day every time but with efforts we also expect others to do the same for us which doesn’t always happen; opening doors for long-lasting disappointments.
It doesn’t, by any chance mean that we should stop making efforts but there are some things which we should keep in mind before expecting. We have compiled around 13 things which shouldn’t be expected from others since they will disappoint us every single time. Ready? Let’s get right into the post.
13.Don’t expect everyone to agree with you!!
It’s a common instinct of humans to believe that their opinions about every aspect of life are always right. Be it religion, food, people we meet or the phone we keep, there’s always an expectation from others to choose what you like; especially from the people who are close to you.
Moreover, there are certain ideologies which we always expect others to agree on which can disappoint us mostly due to the fact that everyone has researched about their beliefs and think positively about it and it is hard for them to change their opinions about something to agree with you.
12.Don’t Expect others to be Flawless!!
Sometimes we have this touch of perfectionism in our wish-list about the people around us, especially those who matter to us. But what’s wrong here is the fact that if perfectionism is aimed towards material things, it can make sense but reality of our personalities and the personalities of people around us is that no one’s skin is perfectly stitched and dyed; everyone has flaws and they learn to accept them if they’re permanent.
You should realize that imperfections should be accepted as strengths and if we cannot wish to change ourselves for anyone, why would anyone else change themselves for us? That would take away their satisfaction from life drastically.
11. DON’T EXPECT THEM TO READ YOUR MIND EVERY TIME.
Well we all agree with the fact that there’ at least one person around us who can read our emotions or thoughts when we are quiet or over thinking about a certain incident. But the problem here is not realizing the fact that they can’t always read us due to us being too blank about our feelings. The solution for this is to not expect them to read you every time and if you get the idea that they aren’t able to read you, then you should be open with them about what you are thinking about; that’s because they might feel disappointed in themselves after realizing they aren’t being able to help.
10.DON’T EXPECT PEOPLE TO PICK YOU UP ALWAYS
This not at all a pessimistic advice for you but one of the bitter realities of our lives that even the people close to you are not always able to pick you up when you fall in the race of life. The reason behind such a heartbreaking fact is that everyone is dealing with their own problems alongside living with you. There might be anxiety growing inside your best friend behind that bright smile; so if sometimes, they aren’t there for you, then don’t mistake it for neglect but take it on the chin as a fact that they also have to fight their own demons.
9. THEY CAN’T ALWAYS UNDERSTAND YOU!
Yes it is understandable that you have your own choices and preferences in all modes of life; if we talk about your preferences regarding the emotions you grow inside your heart and feel that the people close to you aren’t able to understand what you need, it is not their fault either. Sometimes people who care for you cross the line to fight your demons but mess things up; what matters here is the thought behind such an effort which should be acknowledged.
8. DON’T EXPECT THEM TO FEEL AS YOU
If you really like someone and want them to feel the same about you, then just know about one thing that your mind and heart are functioning very differently than the world around you. You might get everything on your wish-list but the other person might have fears grown from bad experiences in the past and it will take time for them to move on before they actually think about choosing you as a person to rely on.
7. NOT EVERY ONE IS THE SAME.
If you expect your relatives or close friends to be the same after a year or two of not interacting with them due to the circulations of life, then you will face misconceptions about their loyalty being weak and well disappointment is the biggest product of that. You should realize that life-shifts is a real deal in everyone’s life and it happens in a jiffy. Every year, we experience certain things which change us; it either makes us a better person or turns our personalities upside down. So the solution to these aspects is to understand the new version of them as soon as we can.
6. EVERYDAY IS NOT A GOOD DAY.
If you expect to wake up to a bright sunny day every day, then the gloomy skies will definitely laugh at your wishes. Life is a bumpy road where you might find thorns and puddles; so accepting it as it is can actually make us learn how to survive effectively.
5.NOT EVERYONE WILL LIKE YOUR PERSONALITY.
You can’t really impress everyone around you because of the fact that every person has preferences and standards for choosing certain people to interact with. If you wake up every day just to convince one person that you are good enough to be his friend, then you might end up getting disappointed for making so many efforts.
4.LIFE WILL NOT BE GOOD WITHOUT HARDWORK
It is one of the wishes of a normal person to live a carefree life, where they don’t have to worry about their bills, next payout or college fee. Well it would be really enjoyable like that but good life is actually a product of hard work and when you achieve it that way, then the sweetness of it will make you do more.
3.DON’T EXPECT FOR YOUR RETURN.
Favors are act of kindness done without any expectations of a payback. If you haven’t realized the reality of it then the people around you will disappoint you a lot with not realizing what you do for them. The best way to tackle this is to make efforts for people selflessly; this will in fact make you happy due to the fact that you’re doing something to make their day.
2. NO TO EXPECT EVERYONE TO TAKE YOUR ADVICE.
It is a comfort when someone acts on your advice and you see that their situation changes positively due to it but it don’t work with everyone. Even if you’re right most of the times, there are two situation of the people who don’t take your advises; one is ego and other is their wish to not really take advices from anyone, they only want you to listen.
1.DON’T EXPECT ANYONE TO HELP YOU FINANCIALLY.
At a certain age, responsibilities engulf you and the people around you to an extent that you can’t really help anyone no matter how much you want to. So expecting your close best friend or even your brother to pay for your bills will actually be unfair on them because they have a lot other things to pay and plan for no matter how much they earn.
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